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Good Grief, What Good is it?"Consider how much more often you suffer from your anger and grief than from those things for which you are angry and grieved." Marcus Antonius Emotions are feelings in motion. You can let them move on. Turner Classic Movies recently showe She stewed in her own juice. That's a neat folk expression for hanging on to anger. Have you ever had trouble letting go of anger or grief? What does hanging on to either feeling do for us? In the case of grief we may think we're getting approval of others by staying miserable. Hanging on to anger may give us a false feeling of vitality or control. Letting go of either one is really quite simple. Picture your anger as a raging fire in your outdoor barbecue and then close the cover. Picture your grief as a dripping faucet and then turn it off. Sure, it will come back each time you long for whomever or whatever you have lost, but you can just turn off the faucet again. I grieved off and on for six months for my father after he died. I never knew w I didn't know at the time that I was feeling sorry for myself, giving myself a reason to be sad in order to get sympathic approval of myself from myself. We all have three basic needs: security, approval, and control. Will you stop now and consider your own examples? When did you last hang on to anger? What basic need did that satisfy? Security or control? When we are angry we are not afraid. That's why some people hang onto anger. When we hang on to grief, wallow in it, we are not afraid either. And, we have, or think we have, control over those around us. They do things to console us that they would not do if we weren't grieving. We make decisions every day. Good grief, let's decide to drop feelings of anger and grief as soon as they arrive. If we decide to keep them around, we should ask ourselves if it's for approval, security, or control. Have a free day! Copyright 2006 Cole's Poetic License © Evelyn Cole, MA, MFA, The Whole-mind Writer, http://www.write-for-wealth.com evycole@direcway.com Cole?s chief aim in life is to convince everyone to understand the power of the subconscious mind and synchronize it with goals of the conscious mind. Along with "Mind Nudges" and "Brainsweep", she has published three novels and several poems that dramatize subconscious power. Related Tips and Advices
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